Discernment Counseling
What is discernment counseling?
Discernment Counseling is a type of counseling that follows a precise process to help people figure out if they should leave their marriage/relationship/ partnership or stay and work on it.
Instead of helping the couple fix their problems (like what happens in couples counseling), it helps the couple answer the question of whether they should stay married or get divorced or stay together or break up. It focuses on helping the couple gain the clarity needed to make the decision.
It also helps them feel confident they made the right choice for the benefit of the relationship and each partner.
Are you ‘in’ the marriage or ‘on the way out’ of your marriage? Are you ‘in’ the relationship or ‘on the way out’ of your relationship?
Are you feeling stuck and hopeless in your romantic relationship? Are the passion and connection gone? Are you unsure why you are still together? Are the routine and lack of spark killing both of you?
Discerning the answers to the above questions is an excruciating and uncomfortable stage.
Discernment Counseling is for people who are unsure of what to do with their relationship. Sometimes one person in the relationship is unsure, sometimes both.
It’s also for people we call leaning in or out of the relationship. Someone who knows they want to stay married is leaning into the marriage. Someone who wants to leave the relationship is leaning out of the marriage.
Discernment Counseling is designed for all these couples who are unsure, pretty sure, or go back-and-forth on what to do.
Discernment counseling helps with decision-making.
Let us begin to talk about what is happening in your relationship as we deconstruct what the problem is. We will talk about wants and needs and what each person desires from this relationship or for themselves individually. Safely and directly, we will decide what is best for each individual and the relationship.
Discernment counseling helps you decide if you will remain together and fight for your partnership or if you need to stop being in this relationship. If this is the case, discernment therapy can help you leave the relationship with a better understanding of why the relationship did not work, allowing you to start your healing with a sense of peace.
Please reach out to me. I am here to help you make a decision that feels right to both of you.